On the rebound? Dating friends can help you make the transition
So you've just broken up with the person you thought was the love of your life. It's common for people to suffer greatly during the aftermath. You may be angry, sad, resentful, reclusive or, worst of all, intent on going out and filling that void immediately. Others fall into this trap simply in order to get back at your ex partner. This syndrome is not age exclusive. Both teens and adults are easy prey for the rebound relationship, which usually ends in the same manner as the last. One way to avoid this unhappy follow up to a broken relationship is dating friends instead. Sound crazy? It isn't. Let's see how this can work.
You probably have a number of friends of the opposite sex, people you hang with at work or school. It's obvious that you have something in common with these friends, albeit in a platonic way. You've never considered them as a love partner and these feelings are probably mutual. That doesn't mean that you wouldn't enjoy meeting at the coffee shop, taking in a movie or jogging together.
Although you have to be careful not to spend all of your time reliving the previous relationship, your friend is likely to be a good listener when you want to vent, perhaps discussing your current lack of confidence, or getting your dating friend's opinion on certain characteristics of your past relationship. As long as you don't spend too much time venting, you'll soon find yourself feeling better, with renewed confidence, not quite so sorry for yourself and actually having a good time.
When you go for the dating friends option, you don't have to confine yourself to one person. In fact, it's a good idea to date more than one friend. What you have in common with one friend may not be the same as any other. One person may be the movie freak, while another is the philosophic type. Yet another may have the best sense of humor in the world. The rapport between you and several friends can more quickly get you back on track, ready to face the world with enthusiasm and happiness. This is your goal.
Dating friends should not be looked at as nurturing a new love relationship, nor as using your friends. Platonic relationships tend to stay that way. It's just having fun.
Cyber dating is yet another way to make the transition from a broken relationship. You may have online friends you've come to know well over a period of time. Dating friends online is not about activities, unless they live close by, but more about conversation. Again, not overdoing the rehashing of every little detail, your online friends can give you some insights and perhaps a fresh perspective on what went wrong. You may be surprised to learn that your online friend, through previous conversations, always wondered why you put up with this loser in the first place. Such remarks, volunteered by your new online dating friend, may come as a shock, but be quite good for your trashed ego and help you regain your confidence.
Try it. You'll like the results. Good luck!
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